songbird's crazy world

I don't know how Drew's sister ever thought she was actually capable of taking care of Marvin anymore. He was back in the hospital again, this time for a scheduled procedure.  He had to stay an extra day due to complications.  Now he's back at the nursing facility.  The facility is working on this Medicaid issue -- he was receiving one form of Medicaid, but needs a different program in order to be a permanent resident of a nursing facility.  Because yes, he is now officially a resident of the facility. Drew and I aren't crazy about the facility, we think there are other nursing homes where he'd be happier.  So we're doing a little research, to determine if he can be transferred to a different facility. So I came across the Facebook page of the facility where Marvin currently resides.    And there was a post from Drew's sister, moaning and groaning that the nurses had Marvin in a wheelchair and that he wasn't getting his physical therapy....

Five months of NaBloPoMo.  Five months of blogging every single day. Every. Single. Day. It's a good form of self discipline.  Of introspection.  Of making sure the creative juices continue to flow. but it's also exhausting.  And it takes away spontaneity. I've seen too many of my fellow bloggers break discipline, they skip blogging for awhile and then never get back into it. That's never been my problem. So the question of the day is:  should I sign up for July's NaBloPoMo? Check back tomorrow and you'll see.

I tend to keep my politics out of this blog. I don't know why, since I tend to wear my political heart on my sleeve, in real life and in many other Internet forums. But I could not let this month come to a close without discussing the two stories that have dominated our news. Two stories of love and hate, of our bitter past and our bright future, of flags and symbols ... The first was the horrific shooting in the Mother Emmanuel Church. When I heard the story, I could not help but wonder if we had stepped back in time to 1965 - a white supremacist killing 9 African Americans in a church. It shocked me, it horrified me. And yet, the grace of the families of the victims, the strength of that community in the face of such tragedy, is something to be admired. And then, out of such sadness...we are looking, really looking, at race relations in this country. Ferguson, Baltimore and now Charleston have made us aware that even with an African-American POTUS, we do not live in a post...

I've been lately thinking About my life's time All the things I've done And how its been And I can't help believing In my own mind I know I'm gonna hate to see it end   -- John Denver There are places I'll remember All my life, though some have changed Some forever, not for better Some have gone and some remain All these places have their moments With lovers and friends I still can recall Some are dead and some are living In my life, I've loved them all   --  Lennon-McCartney We dated, we broke up.  We tried it again, we broke up.  Third time around, we got married.  Had two children.  Got divorced.  Dated other people.  Got back together. 28 years ago today, Drew and I got married.  The anniversary always puts me in a contemplative mood.  The choices I've made over the course of my life.  How things might have turned out if I'd made other decisions. Last week Jen asked me some very probing questions about the divorce....

We seem to find ourselves at the Bonwit Inn  once a year, on Father's Day.  Probably not the best day to evaluate their weekly Sunday brunch, but nevertheless.... It's an all-you-can-eat buffet brunch.     The salad selections, the omelet station and the carving station are in the large dining room, the breads and desserts are in an area just off the lobby, and the serve-yourself hot dishes are in the passageway that connects the dining room to the lobby.  (There is a second  dining room on the other side of the lobby, but I do not know if any food is laid out in that room, we've never been seated there.) for the most part, the food is laid out attractively.  Although the desserts are fine by the lobby, I think the bread items should be closer to the salad bar.  And the area here the serve-yourself items was located tends to be very crowded -- our table was located in this area, and at times it was difficult to maneuver back t...

Why is it that the weekend seems to take forever to arrive?  Especially in the summer, when the weather is nice? This is the time of year when I check WeatherBug and Weather.com frequently, to see if the nice weather will hold for the weekend. And now, with my slavery to the Fitbit   newfound love of walking, the weather is becoming even more important.  I'm not crazy enough to insist on walking in the rain.    I've got DVD's with walking workouts you can do at home, and I've found a few similar workouts on YouTube.  But I'd really prefer to be outside, in the sun. There's a long walk in my future today, weather permitting.  And if Drew remembered to buy propane, dinner will be cooked on the grill.  Such simple pleasures.  But oh so important.

I used to think this place was the be-all and end-all of Mexican fast food, then I had a disappointing experience at the Chipotle in the Financial District. But I had some time to kill while getting my car serviced, so I decided to give this location a try. Chipotle is assembly-line dining. When you get to the counter you choose a taco, a burrito, a bowl, and then you move along the line as meat, beans and toppings are added to your dish. You can get a side of chips with salsa or guacamole. Standard self-serve Coke machine, but an interesting variety of bottled drinks. The restaurant is small and crowded, but this time of year they offer a few tables outside. The restaurant was clean, service was efficient. Food was fresh and tasty. I'd be happy to eat here again. - Posted using BlogPress from my iPad

Our local AMC theater offers a civilized moviegoing experience. Individual recliners and assigned seating, and aisles wide enough so that you don't have to stand up to let someone walk past your seat. Unless we want to see a movie in IMAX, we choose to see movies in this theater. San Andreas is a disaster movie, an excuse to blow things up and knock things down. The plot centers on Ray (a search and rescue pilot for Los Angeles County), his soon to be ex wife Emma, and their daughter Blake. Ray is supposed to drive Blake back to college, but has to cancel when he's called in to work as a result of an earthquake in Nevada -- we get to see the Hoover Dam fall apart. Emma's boyfriend Daniel offers to bring Blake back to school after a stopover in his San Francisco office. Blake is in San Francisco and her parents are in Los Angeles when the big one hits. The parents head for San Francisco, determined to rescue their daughter. There is also an interesting subplot invol...

Sigh.  It's hard to deal with the fact that my "babies" are grown up young women. My latest worries: Becca just got a  double whammy.  Remember her former friend, the girl who was supposed to be her roommate but backed out of the arrangement the day they were supposed to sign the lease?  Former friend found another victim roommate, and they're moving into an apartment.  Move-in day is (get this) Becca's birthday.  Meanwhile, although Becca finally found another roommate, she's still looking for a suitable apartment.  It's frustrating. And she broke up with the guy she's been dating for about six months.  She tells me it's "no big deal", but I know better.  Still, it's not as traumatic as last summer's breakup with the guy she'd been dating since high school. At least things are going well for her at work.  Her supervisor loves her.  And she gets to take it easy these days, she delegates to the summer intern...

Tuna salad is easy to make.  But if you're in a hurry, or you need something that's easily portable, a single serve packet of ready-to-eat tuna salad  has some allure. It's just the kind of thing I can keep at my desk, in case I can't get out at lunchtime. I tried two varieties, the basic Tuna Salad and Mediterranean Style Tuna. Starkist's basic version is composed of light tuna, pickle relish and a soy-oil based dressing.  The packet contains a three ounce portion, just enough for one sandwich -- if your sandwich also includes lettuce and tomato.  Alone, the salad seems a bit skimpy. Bumblebee packages a similar sized portion of tuna salad as a "snack".  I prefer fancy white albacore tuna. It just tastes better than light tuna. But the tuna tasted fresh -- Bumblebees' version comes in a can and sometimes has a metallic aftertaste.  I liked the basic tuna salad, and will likely buy it again. But I'm not likely to buy the Mediterranean ...

I shall spend part of the day with the father of my children, and part of the day with my father. Spending time with my father is bittersweet.  I cannot help but remember the man he used to be, before age and illness overtook him.  The last three years have been especially rough on him. The man I want to remember today is the man who wanted to be a writer but became an English teacher instead.  The man who instilled a loved of literature in me.  The man who loved Shakespeare and Broadway musicals and everything live theater had to offer.  Who would ask me to download the synopsis of an opera before he'd go to see it.  Who delighted in seeing the Rockettes dancing on TV. The man who loved cooking shows and who, upon his retirement, bought a wok and signed up for a class on Chinese cooking. Who made clipping coupons and supermarket shopping a game.  Who played pinochle with his friends at the JCC.  The man who yearned to travel, and who...

Well, this is not a boat accident! And it wasn't any propeller; and it wasn't any coral reef; and it wasn't Jack the Ripper! It was a shark. I just found out, that a girl got killed here last week, and you knew it! You knew there was a shark out there! You knew it was dangerous! But you let people go swimming anyway? You knew all those things! But still my boy is dead now. And there's nothing you can do about it. My boy is dead. I wanted you to know that. Larry, the summer is over. You're the mayor of "shark city". These people think you want the beaches open.   I'm not going to waste my time arguing with a man who's lining up to be a hot lunch. Martin, it's all psychological. You yell barracuda, everybody says, "Huh? What?" You yell shark, we've got a panic on our hands on the Fourth of July . Mr. Vaughn, what we are dealing with here is a perfect engine, an eating machine. It's really a miracle of evolution. A...

So...Atlantic League baseball. Professional baseball, but separate and apart from Major League Baseball and its affiliates.  Eight teams, including our own Long Island Ducks. Whereas a trip to Citi Field or Yankee Stadium is a major expense, a night at Bethpage Ballpark (which is NOT in Bethpage, by the way -- the naming rights to the Central Islip ballpark belong to Bethpage Federal Credit Union) costs roughly the same as going to the movies.  Which is one of the reasons you see a lot of families at the ballpark.  (The other, of course, is that the Ducks invite scores of school groups, scout troops, etc. to sing the national anthem or carry the flags onto the field.) If you've been reading my blog for awhile, you know that Drew and I have been Ducks fans for a few years now, we really enjoy the games.  We've been to regular season games and playoff games, in good weather and in bad.  We usually buy tickets along the first base line, or the third base l...

Just got some interesting information. Not usre if this is true, but we need to find out. We've been told Marvin does have Medicaid, but that he's required to fill out renewal forms to show he remains eligible. That's a lot easier than enrolling, you just have to show that nothing has changed sinc ethe last time you filled out the paperwork. Not so grim after all.

Marvin gave us quite a scare last week, when he took a fall in the bathroom.  The nurses sent him over to the hospital as a precaution, but he wasn't admitted, and now he's back at the nursing home. For the moment. I'm not sure what's going to happen. Back in March, when Drew first got involved, the issue was "what does Marvin want to do?"  Right after surgery, Marvin told the staff at the hospital that he didn't want to see Shelley and that he didn't want to go back to Shelley's house.    By the time he got to rehab, he was vacillating.  Drew felt Marvin would be better off as a permanent resident of a nursing facility, and had extensive discussions with the social worker about how to make that happen.  Later, there was talk of Marvin going back to Shelley's house, but with a home health care aide.  The aide would assist him during the day, and he'd have to rely on Shelley at night. In light of recent events, we don't think i...

I had heard that this was an excellent buffet. So when we got a flyer with coupons, we had to try it. A storefront located on busy Merrick Avenue, the restaurant has ample parking in a lot behind the building. The restaurant is relatively small for an all-you-can-eat buffet, but at 8:00 on a Friday night there were only a few customers, and no wait to be seated. I usually start with sushi. There wasn't much of a selection laid out, but the chef offered to make up any roll on the menu. Drew likes hibachi, and found that the combination prepared for him was tasty. As for the rest -- there are only two small buffet servers, not a lot of selection, and very few vegetables. The food is not kept as hot as I would have liked. I enjoyed the chicken in garlic sauce, the coconut shrimp and the boneless ribs. I didn't see any beef dishes, which was disappointing. Fried rice was decent but not fantastic.  Drew said the crawfish needed seasoning. The only condiments at our...

Big summer blockbuster?  We're there.  Tickets purchased days in advance.  Arrive an hour or more before show time, obtain 3D glasses, get on line at the Imax theater so we can choose our seats. Obtain popcorn, drinks.  And then movie magic begins. Our choice this weekend was obvious:  Jurassic World . I saw the original Jurassic Park , but never saw  The Lost World or Jurassic Park III .  No matter, you can enjoy the current film without having seen any of the prior movies, though there are numerous references to the first film. The plot of the film is simple:  22 years after the events in Jurassic Park, Isla Nublar is now a fully functional dinosaur theme park and resort.  Brothers Zach and Gray Mitchell are sent there to visit their aunt, Claire Dearing, the park's operations manager.  InGen's geneticists have created a new genetically modified dinosaur called Indominus rex , which Claire and the rest of the park's management...

Back in April, the NaBloPoMo theme was "grow". My April 1st  post outlined some ways in which I wanted to grow. I talked about several things.  Walking?  Good follow-through on that.  But then again, I am a slave to my Fitbit. Yoga?  Tried to do it once.  My problem was with the floor exercises.  It was fairly easy to get down onto the floor, not so easy to get back up again. .I have to work on my flexibility. Meditation?  Tried it a few times, liked it, but haven't done it in awhile.  I'm going to start again. That book on Kabbalah?  Still haven't finished it. In fact, I've noticed that I don't spend a lot of time reading for pleasure anymore.  I'm spending far too much time chatting on Facebook, playing video games and watching TV.  I was always a reader, I love literature, I minored in English. So, instead of reading on the iPad, where there are so many other distractions, I'm going to charge up my first-...

Back to Sunken Meadow earlier this week.  Got to see some interesting wildlife. But there was  something else at the beach that night,  Something that haunted my nightmares. I will spare you the image.  But it was horrible.  Truly horrible. It was ...dare I say it?  It was  a gypsy moth caterpillar. You might wonder what horrors are associated with a little black caterpillar. One of those furry black things is...controllable.  When he brings along a million of his nearest and dearest, however.... In the early 1980's Long Island was overrun by gypsy moth caterpillars.  For several weeks each spring, the trees were heavy with caterpillars.  Those hungry little critters could strip a tree bare. And they didn't just crawl through trees.  The infestation spread to patios and decks and all sorts of outdoor structures.  Our white garage doors were so full of caterpillars that they appeared black. Reall...

I'm really hating the pollen count/allergy season stuff lately.  I've been taking Claritin, but I'm still getting symptoms.  Not really pleasant.  As yes, I've been known to whine about it. Marvin went back to the nursing home.  Considering what we heard at the hospital last week, I wasn't sure that was ever going to happen.  Then he gave us a real scare yesterday, took a fall in the bathroom, and was sent back to the hospital for a CAT scan. He's back at the nursing home, but it's clear he cannot manage on his own.  The argument between Drew and Shelley may be moot, I'm not sure Marvin will ever be well enough to leave the nursing facility, even with a home health care aide.  Shelley, of course, is totally unprepared to hear this  or to deal with it. Becca is back to looking at apartments, this time with a different roommate.  So far they haven't found anything they like.    I hope they find something suitable ...

I've always had a passion for history.  It was my undergraduate major, I spent my college years exploring past civilizations.  The famous quote comes to mind: "Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it" -- George Santayana (16 December 1863 in Madrid, Spain – 26 September 1952 in Rome, Italy),  philosopher, essayist, poet and novelist. So today, because I was bored, I compiled a short list of historic events which occurred on June 12 (courtesy of http://www.historyorb.com/ ): 1665 - New Amsterdam legally becomes British and renamed New York after English Duke of York 1859 - Comstock Silver Lode in Nevada discovered 1909 - "Shine On, Harvest Moon" by Ada Jones & Billy Murray hits #1 1920 - 52nd Belmont: Clarence Kummer aboard Man o' War wins in 2:14.2 1923 - Harry Houdini frees himself from a straight jacket while suspended upside down, 40 feet (12 m) above ground in NYC 1942 - Anne Frank gets her diary ...

I will start by saying how excited I was to see this product in the supermarket. I love raisins, I love cranberries, and this seemed like a wonderful idea. It's been a long time since I bought a box of raisin bran, so I thought I would give it a try. I am  very disappointed with this product. Remember the old jingle "Two scoops of raisins in a package of Kellogg's Raisin Bran"? It still says so on the box--- but I don't believe them. Who knows?  Maybe the fruit all sank to the bottom of the box.  What I've eaten these last two days has been a lot of bran flakes with the occasional raisin or cranberry to break up the monotony. the bran flakes are tasty -- I stir them into my container of Greek yogurt -- but I bought the product for the fruit.  And I'm not really seeing any fruit here. Bottom line:  I'll buy a different cereal and add my own fruit.

And then I discovered a "hidden gem".  Tudor-style buildings, now used as parks department offices.    I suspect these buildings date back to the Salisbury Country Club days.  And a rose garden...now maintained in honor of  Long Island Transplant Recipients International Organization’s (LITRIO).  So pretty, you can imagine yourself in the English Countryside   And one final word about Eisenhower Park. You may be thinking: what about Eisenhower? they named the park after him, why isn't there a statue in his honor? Well, actually, there is. He stands at the main entrance to the park, facing Hempstead Turnpike.  Beautiful statue, but the area is totally inaccessible to pedestrians.  I was able to get a few photos from my car, as I was leaving the park, while waiting for the light to change:

So... Across the lake from the war memorial is the 9/11 Memorial.  Nassau County, being a suburb of NYC, was hit hard by the events of 9/11.

In light of my newfound love of long walks, I am now looking for interesting places to explore. Which led me to Eisenhower Park. If Jones Beach is the jewel of Long Island's state parks, Eisenhower Park is the jewel of Nassau County's park system.  It's a huge park, larger than NYC's Central Park, with a golf course, ball fields, picnic areas, tennis courts, playgrounds, an aquatics center...huge park, designed for all sorts of recreation. I remember when the place used to be called Salisbury Park.  It was renamed in memory of President Eisenhower in 1969.  But what I did not know until recently was that the park was originally part of the Salisbury Country Club, quite famous back in the 1920's, but that the land became county property when the club couldn't pay taxes  during the Great Depression. We drive through the park frequently to avoid traffic, but the last time I used any of the park's facilities ...it had to have been in 1981.  We went to a...